Part 1: From Preparation to Presence: How to Lead Culturally Complex Meetings with Confidence

We’ve all been there. A meeting where everyone nods, but no one really agrees. Or a situation where you expect discussion and are met with silence. Or worse, the kind of meeting where the real decisions seem to happen after the call ends, in private emails or side conversations.

In international and culturally diverse settings, meetings can be full of invisible dynamics. What looks like agreement may be polite deferral. What seems like a lack of engagement could be a sign of respect. This is where culturally intelligent leadership - and inner balance - makes the difference between a meeting that just ticks boxes and one that truly moves people forward.

Why Meetings Across Cultures Feel “Off”

We tend to assume that meetings are about structure and content. But in cross-cultural contexts, they’re just as much about tone, trust, and unspoken expectations. As Erin Meyer explains in The Culture Map, different cultures interpret directness, authority, time, and participation in radically different ways:

What is considered respectful in one culture may be considered disrespectful in another. What is efficient to one person may be seen as hasty and rude to another.

For example:

• In Germany or the Netherlands, disagreement and debate are seen as signs of engagement.

• In Japan or Thailand, disagreement may be softened or avoided in public to preserve harmony.

• In the U.S., quick decision-making may signal efficiency.

• In France or Brazil, a long discussion, even with tension, is part of the process of arriving at commitment.

  
  

These differences are not surface-level. They reflect deeply held values about how respect, leadership, and clarity are expressed. That’s why, even when everyone in the room speaks the same language, the meaning of what’s said can be interpreted very differently.

The Silent Agreement That Wasn’t

A U.S.-based marketing executive led a virtual meeting with colleagues in Japan to finalize a campaign. At the end of the call, everyone nodded and said, “Yes, that’s fine.” Assuming consensus, the executive moved forward. Days later, concerns emerged via indirect feedback. The Japanese team hadn’t actually agreed they were being polite, avoiding direct conflict in a group setting. In their context, a “yes” simply meant “I’m listening” or “I understand,” not necessarily “I agree.”

If the meeting had included more structured feedback rounds, or a follow-up in smaller groups, the outcome might have been clearer and more collaborative.

B.A.L.A.N.C.E. as a Pre-Meeting Strategy

Before you lead any culturally complex meeting, take a moment to center yourself not just in what you’ll say, but in how you’ll show up. Here’s how the B.A.L.A.N.C.E. model can guide your preparation:

BREATHE

Start by checking in with your state of mind. Are you rushing in with your task list? Are you calm and clear? Your energy sets the tone. Take a few deep breaths. Ground yourself. This presence is more powerful than any agenda.

ASSESS

Consider who will be in the meeting and what cultural dynamics might be at play. What is each participant’s likely comfort with open disagreement, hierarchy, formality, or silence? Use Erin Meyer's cultural mapping as a reference point. Are you communicating up, down, or across a hierarchy? Will direct questions be welcomed or seen as confrontational?

You might also consider decision-making styles. Some cultures lean toward top-down decision-making, where the leader speaks first. In others, especially consensus-oriented cultures like Japan or Sweden, leaders are expected to listen first, speak last, and reflect collective views. Misreading this can result in either perceived passivity or dominance - neither of which fosters trust.

LISTEN (in advance)

Tune in even before the meeting begins. Have there been subtle clues in previous emails or calls? Are there signals about who speaks freely and who holds back? Listening starts well before words are spoken. Consider reviewing past interactions or having a quick pre-meeting conversation to understand what matters most to the people in the room.

Who Speaks First? A Cultural Cue

During a cross-functional project meeting between a U.K. team and a senior executive from India, the British project lead opened the discussion by asking for feedback. The Indian executive remained quiet. The silence felt awkward - and the British team interpreted it as disapproval. In reality, the executive was waiting for the most senior person to set the tone. In high-power-distance cultures, hierarchy dictates not just decision-making, but who speaks first. Once the project lead adjusted by offering clear direction and inviting structured input, the conversation flowed easily.

These small moments are where cultural awareness transforms communication.

Opening with Intention, Not Just Information

As the leader or facilitator, your opening shapes the emotional temperature of the meeting. In high-context cultures, this opening may be as much about relationship-building as about jumping into content. A few extra moments spent acknowledging people, clarifying purpose, or referencing shared values can create trust, especially in global teams. Even a simple shift from “Let’s dive in” to “Let’s take a moment to align on our goals today” can make a big difference.

In The Culture Map, Meyer emphasizes that clarity in one culture may feel like over-simplification in another, and ambiguity in one culture might feel respectful in another. So part of your role is to bridge those perceptions to translate purpose into language that works for everyone.

When you set the tone with presence and thoughtfulness, you subtly signal that this space is safe, structured, and inclusive, qualities that encourage true participation.

Reading the (Virtual) Room

Once the meeting is underway, pay close attention to what’s happening beneath the words. Is there hesitation before people speak? Are there long pauses after a proposal? Is one participant dominating the conversation while others go quiet?

In high-power-distance cultures, participants may not interrupt or challenge someone in authority. In group-oriented cultures, someone may wait for consensus before speaking up. These are not signs of disinterest, they’re cues. Your role is to create space and safety for contribution across all styles.

Using your own presence, your pacing, your tone, your responsiveness, you can invite broader participation without putting people on the spot. Ask open, reflective questions. Allow silence without rushing to fill it. A calm, open demeanor is often your most effective tool.

Composure Over Control

Meetings don’t always go to plan. Someone may challenge you. Technology may glitch. A client may seem withdrawn or critical. In these moments, B.A.L.A.N.C.E. is more than a concept - it becomes a practice. Returning to breath, noticing your physical responses, and mentally stepping back from the reactive “fix-it” mindset allows you to stay grounded. This doesn’t mean becoming passive, it means choosing your next move with intention rather than impulse.

In fact, how you respond under pressure often says more about your leadership than what’s in your meeting notes. Staying composed especially across cultures where expectations vary, builds psychological safety, and that safety drives real engagement.

A Culturally Attuned Meeting is a Human-Centered Meeting

Cross-cultural leadership in meetings isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being attentive to people, to patterns, and to the invisible signals in the room. When you lead with presence and purpose, people respond not just to your words, but to your awareness.

Whether you’re hosting a weekly team check-in or a high-stakes international client call, showing up with B.A.L.A.N.C.E. helps you move beyond running a meeting to actually leading one.

Next in the Series…

In Part 2, we’ll explore what participation really means in multicultural meetings and how silence, hierarchy, and group norms affect who speaks, when, and why.

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Linda Salamin

Executive Communication Coach and Cross-Cultural Trainer

Creator of the B.A.L.A.N.C.E. Communication Method

www.cmnca.ch

Helping Professionals Communicate with Clarity, Confidence, and Cultural Awareness.